It was humbling to look back at my earliest work with people with disabilities and know that I was doing it wrong. I began my career as a Community Integration Specialist, hired to promote inclusion for people with disabilities. In that new era of deinstitutionalization, the approach was staff-directed social outings, like bringing ‘clients’ to bowling alleys or the mall. While it was the right purpose for me, I had yet to learn the deeper principles meant to guide my work.

It wasn’t until I routinely drove a wheelchair van that I learned the importance of accessibility. ‘Accessible’ parking spots didn’t allow room to lower a wheelchair lift. Working with children with emotional and behavioral difficulties and autism taught me the value of self-determination, dignity of risk, and choice. ​People are much happier when given a chance and​ a say!

I saw firsthand what is possible when people with disabilities are allowed opportunities to hold valued social roles—such as when they went from feeling powerless to purposeful when hired for their first job. I learned about resilience and equity; when given equal opportunity, I saw individuals and parents with disabilities succeed.
 
I carried these principles into my home as a shared living and respite provider and into the homes, schools, hospitals, police stations, and offices I entered as a crisis clinician, service coordinator, team leader, and clinical coordinator. The principles guided me in my counseling practice and now, through the homes, courts, and organizations I enter nationwide as a parenting assessment expert, consultant, and educator.
 
It has been decades of work, and while these ideals are still with me, they are not embraced by everyone. Some say parenthood is the last step to true community inclusion. Yet, disabled parents are refused the right to parent—not because of abuse or neglect, but because of a lack of understanding and support.

I founded Adaptive Parenting Solutions, LLC and SAGE Institute for Adaptive Parenting to give disabled parents a fair opportunity to demonstrate their ability to parent, help families access the support they need, decrease stigma, create truly inclusive communities, and prevent children from unnecessarily entering our overburdened child welfare system.

Please contact us to learn more about our organization, how you can help, and how we plan to fulfill our vision to “impart knowledge that inspires social change, garners support, and promotes equity for parents with disabilities and their families."